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29 Oct 2015 

'Gone Girl': 5 life lessons to be learned from the year's best romantic drama

Warning: If you have not yet viewed the film, Gone Girl, you might not want to read this review in its entirety. At points, some "spoilers" (i.e. plot points from the film) may be revealed, and could potentially ruin your viewing experience.

Gone Girl is the 'chick flick' that really is not a chick flick at all. Quite frankly, at least half of the women who view this movie probably will not like it. To take it a step further, if a man had written the novel that this film was based on, and then later wrote the screenplay for this film, 90% chance, this film would have never been made. If it had been made, feminist groups would be protesting this movie for weeks ... even months. The male novelist and screenwriter would then be publicly branded as a 'woman-hater' and a 'misogynist' for sure. Thank goodness, a woman wrote this film (Gillian Flynn). Gone Girl could be described as 1/3 romantic drama, 1/3 crime-suspense thriller, and 1/3 dark-themed comedy.

Author Esther Vilar had a book published in 1971 entitled, The Manipulated Man. The book was considered extremely controversial at the time (and to a degree, still is), and Vilar received hate mail and even death threats from women who were hardcore feminists. Why did these women hate Vilar and her book so much?

In the book, Vilar basically asserts that the vast majority of women are extremely calculating and highly manipulative. Vilar spells out in her book that deep throat she believes most women 'get over' on men (and society as a whole) by presenting themselves as 'innocent victims' to the big, bad bullies known as 'men.' Vilar goes on to say that many women manipulate men to receive financial favors, to gain employment offers, to get pregnant, and even to get married.

If you were to take the primary themes from Vilar's book, and throw in one part American Beauty, one part The Invention of Lying, one part Body Heat, as well as some of the assertions presented in the books Radical Honesty and The Possibility of Sex, then the end result would more-than-likely be Gone Girl.

Here are 5 takeaway life lessons that this brilliantly written film touches on:

1) When a married man and a married woman experience drama, the general public is always going to first look at the man as the 'bad guy' in the relationship unless some concrete evidence comes forward that proves otherwise

Comment: When Beyonc's sister, Solange Knowles, attacked music mogul Sean Carter a.k.a. Jay-Z in an elevator, what did many people in society say, and particularly women? "He must have done SOMETHING to set her off...." Yet, when suspended NFL football player Ray Rice punched his wife Janay in an elevator, did anyone say or suggest, "She must have done SOMETHING to set him off ..." No. Not hardly.

The movie Gone Girl plays on this fact. Generally speaking, most members of the media as well as most members of society as a whole are always going to give women the benefit of the doubt. Nineteen out of every twenty times.

For married men reading this review: Let me throw a "hypothetical scenario" at you. Let's say you're in a bad marriage. You got caught cheating on your wife, and now she not only resents you for it, but flat-out hates you for it. On top of this, she has been wanting you to get her pregnant, but you have refused for years.

What if this woman ... your wife ... was so hateful and manipulative that she decided to 'fake' her own death, and make it look like you murdered her?

Marinate on that.

Realistically, unless some concrete evidence came forward that proved your wife set you up and framed you for her alleged murder, the general public would assume you actually murdered your wife even if there was no factual evidence available to prove that you were guilty.

This brings me to the second lesson to be learned from the David Fincher-directed film . . .

2) Many women can literally 'get away with murder' if they are intelligent enough, shrewd enough, and bold enough to do it

Comment: Along the same lines as point #1, most women ... and particularly highly manipulative women ... realize that society tends to give them the benefit of the doubt regarding any drama that goes down between them and a man. For example, a woman could agree to consensual sex ... but if she decides later on that the guy she just had sex with is a 'jerk,' she could conceivably fabricate circumstances that would make it look like this man raped or date-raped her (when in reality, he did not).

Again, most members of the general public would probably say, "Yeah ... I believe he raped her. That is just how men are. They are so aggressive and horny." Basically, what the movie Gone Girl asserts, is that when it comes to man vs. woman drama, a woman is going to be "assumed to be innocent until absolutely, positively proven guilty" while the man will be "assumed to be guilty until absolutely, positively proven innocent."

3) The media (and even the Entertainment Industry) has the power to provoke you to like someone ... or dislike someone

Comment: Probably the most underrated sub-plot of Gone Girl is its focus on the power of "media manipulation." It's been known for years that the media can 'make you or break you.' One day, you could be a 'media darling' ... and the next minute, society will hate you. You take Tiger Woods. Tiger was a media darling for a long time. Then, once he got caught cheating on his wife with skanky women, his popularity plunged almost overnight.

Two television series that play into this are ABC's Scandal and Showtime's Ray Donovan. Both lead characters in those two series (Actress Kerry Washington and Actor Liev Schreiber) are paid by their clients to prevent them from accumulating "bad publicity," and in some cases, prevent them from being charged with a crime.

This is why most men and women who are celebrities and generally in the public eye have agents, managers, publicists, and "handlers." These people are hired to make sure that their clients remain "likeable" to the general public. Because if you are an Entertainment Industry celebrity or media personality, how "likeable" you are translates into how much money you will earn.

Even though Nick Dunne (Actor Ben Affleck) is not really a 'celebrity' in the film Gone Girl, once he is accused of murdering his seemingly missing wife Amy a.k.a. "Amazing Amy" (Actress Rosamund Pike), the media starts branding him as a "jerk" and an "unlikeable guy." The main person that prevents him from sinking too low in the 'court of public opinion and social media' is his lawyer, Tanner Bolt (Actor Tyler Perry).

What the movie Gone Girl highlights in a subtle manner is that if you are perceived as "likeable" by the general public, people do not really care if you have flaws and weaknesses in your personality, or if you have done a few wrong things in your life. On the flip side, once you are branded as an "unlikeable" person, no one will want to associate with you even if you are truly a good, quality person who generally treats people right behind closed doors.

4) Many married couples are not necessarily 'real' and authentic with each other when they first connect romantically

Comment: For the last fifteen or twenty years, there has always been this urban slang phrase that went mainstream that says, "I am just keepin' it real." The reason why that phrase is used so frequently, and why it is so popular, is because most human beings are not real, raw, and authentic with each other. Dr. Brad Blanton, author of Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth emphatically points this out his best-selling book. Dr. Blanton says in his book that behavior that is dishonest, disingenuous, duplicitous, and manipulative has become more or less "acceptable" in mainstream society, and that most people view such forms of behavior as "normal." Dr. Blanton goes on to say that when you are a man or woman who is bluntly honest, extremely sincere, and possess no 'phony' and/or manipulative tendencies about you whatsoever, you will typically be viewed as "weird" or "controversial."

If a nickname could be given to the movie Gone Girl, an alternative title would be "Public Faades." Not only do people who only know each other casually and socially tend to present a number of public faades to each other, but even men and women who are involved with each other romantically and sexually tend to do the same thing.

If you are a woman reading this, how many times have you told one of your girlfriends a comment along the lines of, "That one guy I dated a few years ago was so nice to me when I first met him ... but then, after we had sex a few times, he started acting like a jerk!" The reality is, that guy did not just 'suddenly' become a 'jerk.' What that guy did was present you with a believable faade that you bought into, and he used that faade for days, weeks, or months until he got what he wanted from you (casual sex).

If you are a man reading this, how many times have you told one of your male buddies a comment along the lines of, "Man, I have to be honest ... my wife is nothing like the woman who I met years ago. When I first met her, she was so sweet, sensuous, feminine, and submissive. Now, she is just a straight up argumentative bitch who tries to emasculate me at every opportunity." Again ... that wife of yours did not just 'suddenly' change her behavior. She just waited to reveal who she really was all along. If a woman wants you to marry her really, really badly ... and wants to get pregnant by you really, really badly ... she will put on an "acting performance" that will last for weeks, months, or even years. Once that woman gets what she wants (e.g., a wedding ring on her finger, a child in her womb, etc.), then she will feel like she is free to reveal to you the person who she really is and really was all along.

Gone Girl highlights this fact. In the film, Nick and Amy Dunne presented each other with faades of their real selves. It was not until years into their marriage where they began to slowly, but surely reveal to each other who they really were at their core. This type of scenario plays out in households all over the country on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis among married and unmarried couples.

5) Just because you are a man with an expensive house, an expensive car, a great career and a large bank account does not mean that you are going to attract women who have a genuine interest in you

Comment: If you are a man, and you have read many of the previous articles in this column, you should know that being wealthy, having a successful career, and owning a lot of material possessions is highly overrated when it comes to attracting a woman who is genuinely interested in sharing your company in a romantic and/or sexual manner.

Without giving away too many more of the captivating and intriguing plot points of Gone Girl, there is a sub-plot toward the latter part of the movie that highlights this fact. Surely, there are women who will not hesitate to "use" a man and manipulate a man in order to secure financial assistance or support from him. No doubt about that. This is why you have 'gold digger' types and "Sugar Babies" that exist in society. The harsh reality is, if a woman is not attracted to you ... she is just not attracted to you. Even if you win twenty million dollars in the lottery tomorrow, that woman is still not going to develop any genuine interest in dating you or having sex with you. Again, she may pretend to be interested in you in order to take advantage of your financial generosity, but other than that, no amount of money is going to create a sincere interest on her part.

I applaud Hollywood for producing and distributing Gone Girl. Let's be real: There have been dozens, if not hundreds of films that highlight the dark side of men in their romantic and sexual relationships with women, but only a handful of movies have been made over the years where the woman is more so the "bad guy" in a relationship or marriage (see previous article).

This film should be required viewing for any single, engaged, or married man who is nave enough to buy into the belief that "all women are sweet, innocent, beautiful creatures" who can do no wrong. The reality is, there are 'good' men in society ... and there are 'bad' men in society. There are women with great moral character and integrity ... and there are women who are super scandalous, conniving, venomous, vindictive, and extremely manipulative.

No movie that has been released in 2014 points out these facts more than Gone Girl. Kudos to Ms. Flynn, Ms. Pike, Mr. Fincher, and everyone else associated with this brilliant film.

Gone Girl is currently playing in theaters; Check your local theaters for showtimes

Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of books, including Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking and Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex. Currie's latest eBook, The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly is also available exclusively on in their Kindle format. You can also download a copy of Currie's eBook on your iPhone, Android Smartphone, or other Smartphone. Starting with Monday, August 4, 2014, you might be eligible to download a FREE copy of the audiobook version of 'Mode One' on CLICK HERE for more details.

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08 Feb 2015 

The Advantages And Downsides Of Online Dating

On the internet dating is gaining in reputation all the time and is becoming much more accepted. Online dating is actually a secure and sensible way for people enthusiastic about a lengthy term connection to obtain to know one one more.

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03 Feb 2015 

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29 Jan 2015 

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